Don’t let go of Hope. Hope gives you the strength to keep going
when you feel like giving up.
Don’t ever quit believing in yourself. As long as you believe you Can,
You will have reason for Trying.
Don’t let anyone hold your Happiness in their Hands; Hold it in yours, so it will always be
within your Reach.
Don’t measure success or failure by material wealth, but by how you feel; our feelings determine the richness of our Lives.
Don’t let bad moments overcome you; be patient, and they will pass.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for Help; we all need it from time to time.
Don’t run away from love but towards Love. Because it is your deepest Joy.
Don’t wait for what you want to come to you. Go after it with all that You Are,
Knowing that Life will meet you Halfway.
Don’t feel like you’ve lost when plans and dreams fall short of your hopes.
Anytime you learn something new About Yourself or about Life, You have progressed.
Don’t do anything that takes away From your Self-Respect. Feeling good about Yourself
Is essential to feeling good about Life.
Don’t ever forget how to Laugh or be too proud to Cry. Or too stubborn to Smile
Don’t ever forget a friend who truly loves You As it could be that friend who is true to your Needs Don’t ever forget who helped you Grow as your need. For more seeds may often re-appear
With all the above live life to its Fullest…
Thursday, April 14, 2011
How to survive a heart attack when alone
Let's say it's 6.15pm and you're driving home (alone of course) after an unusually hard day on the job.
You're really tired, and frustrated……
You are really stressed and upset with your boss….
Suddenly you start experiencing severe pain in your chest that starts to radiate out into your arm and up into your jaw.
You are only five miles from the hospital nearest your home.
Unfortunately you don't know if you'll be able to make it that far
What do you do ???
You have been trained in CPR, but the guy that taught the course did not tell you how to perform it on yourself!!!
Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack, without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only about 10 seconds left before losing conscious
Do not panic, but start coughing repeatedly and very vigorously.
A deep breath should be taken before each cough, the cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest.
A breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again.
Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating. The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to a hospital
Tell as many other people as possible about this.
It could save their lives!!! Don't ever think that you are not prone to heart attack as your age is less than 25 or 30. Nowadays due to the change in the Life style, heart attack is found among people of all age groups.
Be a friend and please Share this article to as many friends as possible.
You're really tired, and frustrated……
You are really stressed and upset with your boss….
Suddenly you start experiencing severe pain in your chest that starts to radiate out into your arm and up into your jaw.
You are only five miles from the hospital nearest your home.
Unfortunately you don't know if you'll be able to make it that far
What do you do ???
You have been trained in CPR, but the guy that taught the course did not tell you how to perform it on yourself!!!
Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack, without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only about 10 seconds left before losing conscious
Do not panic, but start coughing repeatedly and very vigorously.
A deep breath should be taken before each cough, the cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest.
A breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again.
Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating. The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to a hospital
Tell as many other people as possible about this.
It could save their lives!!! Don't ever think that you are not prone to heart attack as your age is less than 25 or 30. Nowadays due to the change in the Life style, heart attack is found among people of all age groups.
Be a friend and please Share this article to as many friends as possible.
The secret to losing weight and having perfect health
There are thousands of diet books and plans on The secret to losing weight and having perfect health. They can all be summarized into one simple five-word rule for proper weight, excellent health and long life: “Eat less and exercise more.”
The only way to achieve your proper weight is to develop the habit of eating less and exercising more each day and each week. But just as it takes you months and years to become overweight, it takes you many months to get rid of the weight once you make that decision.
It is not easy to lose weight. This is because you develop automatic habits of eating that are hard to break. You get into a rhythm of eating certain foods - morning, noon and night. You become accustomed to eating snacks between meals, and to overeating in the evening. It is not easy to break these habits, but it is definitely possible. This is your goal.
Setting Your Goal for Superb Physical Health
The way to achieve your ideal weight is to first of all set a specific goal for the amount that you want to weigh at a specific time and date. Write it down. You make a list of everything that you think of that you can do to achieve that goal.
You then take action on your list and you work on achieving this goal every single day until you reach it.
Be gentle with yourself. Don’t attempt to lose an enormous amount of weight in a short period of time. Just as it takes a long time to gain weight, it takes a long time to lose the weight and keep it off permanently. Resolve to lose one ounce per day, two pounds per month. You can set a higher goal if you like, but the more gradually you take off the weight by adjusting your eating and exercise habits, the more likely it is that you will develop new, permanent habits that will enable you to keep the weight off forever.
The only way to achieve your proper weight is to develop the habit of eating less and exercising more each day and each week. But just as it takes you months and years to become overweight, it takes you many months to get rid of the weight once you make that decision.
It is not easy to lose weight. This is because you develop automatic habits of eating that are hard to break. You get into a rhythm of eating certain foods - morning, noon and night. You become accustomed to eating snacks between meals, and to overeating in the evening. It is not easy to break these habits, but it is definitely possible. This is your goal.
Setting Your Goal for Superb Physical Health
The way to achieve your ideal weight is to first of all set a specific goal for the amount that you want to weigh at a specific time and date. Write it down. You make a list of everything that you think of that you can do to achieve that goal.
You then take action on your list and you work on achieving this goal every single day until you reach it.
Be gentle with yourself. Don’t attempt to lose an enormous amount of weight in a short period of time. Just as it takes a long time to gain weight, it takes a long time to lose the weight and keep it off permanently. Resolve to lose one ounce per day, two pounds per month. You can set a higher goal if you like, but the more gradually you take off the weight by adjusting your eating and exercise habits, the more likely it is that you will develop new, permanent habits that will enable you to keep the weight off forever.
He is not interested in you any more…Move on!
There are pains in a woman’s heart that memory cannot erase for a long, long time and that is the pain of losing a man she truly loves. So many women choose to hold on to a love that is already lost and that brings more pain. Hopefully, this article will shed some light on whether that man is interested in you or it’s time to move on.
If he's dating someone else, you've got to start moving on.
Please don't be naive. Wake up! Realize what's going on here. He doesn't share your feelings of wanting to back together. This is hard for a woman when you still have feelings for him.... but you're setting yourself up for ALL KINDS of pain and disappointment. Never allow men who have "someone else" in their life to keep sharing and expressing their feelings for you.
If a man doesn't know what he wants, he generally doesn't want what he's got.
This may sound harsh, but it's the truth of the situation. And even when it isn't completely true, it's a good rule to go by. If you challenge this idea, you need to recognize that he's not in the right place in his life to share what you want with him. Right now it sounds like your waiting for him to make up his mind what he wants is the right choice. But it’s not, he’ll just tag you along until someone better comes along and you will have no one to blame but you.
A good man who is the right person and wants to be with you will find his own way to his "Emotional Truth."
If his truth is that he wants to be with you, or not be with you, you have to respect that. But I see women do it all the time. The guy will be sending all kinds of subtle (or even direct) signs that he's not "available" or interested in something "serious", but the woman ignores them and just pays attention to the fact that he likes being with her when they're together. In other words, she substitutes the physical
connection, or even the occasional emotional connection, for the real relationship she wants
to be in.
Put more value on his actions, not his words
Forget what he says. Take some time to think about the past with the man, how he treats you, and then compare that to what will honestly make YOU happy, and what kind of relationship you want in your future. If you're honest about it with yourself, I don't think he'll fit well into that based on his actions and behavior.
A strong connection does NOT necessarily equal any interest in a relationship.
That's why it's CRITICAL that women learn to read the signals that a man sends about where he's at. Because he's surely not going to just lay it all out there for you. I promise. If he does, write me an email, tell me all about it, and give me his mailing address so I can send him his prize. I know you are wondering, why would a man have a great woman and a great connection with her that felt amazing when they were together, and not want a relationship? Just because he has feelings for you doesn’t mean that he wants to be in a relationship with you and be faithful.
You can't convince a man to want to be with you.
If a man ever tells you he does not know what he wants. Run my friend, and don’t look back. This is CLASSIC man-speak for "I'm not emotionally available and I'm not ready for a
real relationship”. When he can't get in touch with his feelings and isn't open to exploring them, it's a text-book
case of unavailability. Your convincing him and your wanting
him back, is making you come off in all kinds of ways that men
just don't respond well to. NO AMOUNT of talking, experience or reasoning with him can get him to feel the way you want him
to feel
Don’t try stay in touch with him and keep the connection alive.
I know it seems like the best idea to keep trying to stay in touch with him and keep the connection alive. But the truth is that you're just keeping this same old situation alive by pumping your time and attention into it. If instead, you step back and stop chasing him or trying to convince him you're the right woman, you’ll have an opportunity to do something that can honestly be ATTRACTIVE to him
Something funny happens when a man gets the space he asked for
If you do it in the right way, he's forced to deal with himself and his own feelings to figure out that all the things he is worried about, afraid of, fearful of "committing to", etc. And being by himself, he'll see that these things are really just in his own mind - and not bad things about YOU.
Move on
Get back to the things that you enjoy, the places you like to go and avoid places or things you used to do or see with that man. Spend some time with your friends and give yourself the space you deserve. The less you talk about what you are to him the better off you'll be.
And I think you'll be amazed at the results.
If he's dating someone else, you've got to start moving on.
Please don't be naive. Wake up! Realize what's going on here. He doesn't share your feelings of wanting to back together. This is hard for a woman when you still have feelings for him.... but you're setting yourself up for ALL KINDS of pain and disappointment. Never allow men who have "someone else" in their life to keep sharing and expressing their feelings for you.
If a man doesn't know what he wants, he generally doesn't want what he's got.
This may sound harsh, but it's the truth of the situation. And even when it isn't completely true, it's a good rule to go by. If you challenge this idea, you need to recognize that he's not in the right place in his life to share what you want with him. Right now it sounds like your waiting for him to make up his mind what he wants is the right choice. But it’s not, he’ll just tag you along until someone better comes along and you will have no one to blame but you.
A good man who is the right person and wants to be with you will find his own way to his "Emotional Truth."
If his truth is that he wants to be with you, or not be with you, you have to respect that. But I see women do it all the time. The guy will be sending all kinds of subtle (or even direct) signs that he's not "available" or interested in something "serious", but the woman ignores them and just pays attention to the fact that he likes being with her when they're together. In other words, she substitutes the physical
connection, or even the occasional emotional connection, for the real relationship she wants
to be in.
Put more value on his actions, not his words
Forget what he says. Take some time to think about the past with the man, how he treats you, and then compare that to what will honestly make YOU happy, and what kind of relationship you want in your future. If you're honest about it with yourself, I don't think he'll fit well into that based on his actions and behavior.
A strong connection does NOT necessarily equal any interest in a relationship.
That's why it's CRITICAL that women learn to read the signals that a man sends about where he's at. Because he's surely not going to just lay it all out there for you. I promise. If he does, write me an email, tell me all about it, and give me his mailing address so I can send him his prize. I know you are wondering, why would a man have a great woman and a great connection with her that felt amazing when they were together, and not want a relationship? Just because he has feelings for you doesn’t mean that he wants to be in a relationship with you and be faithful.
You can't convince a man to want to be with you.
If a man ever tells you he does not know what he wants. Run my friend, and don’t look back. This is CLASSIC man-speak for "I'm not emotionally available and I'm not ready for a
real relationship”. When he can't get in touch with his feelings and isn't open to exploring them, it's a text-book
case of unavailability. Your convincing him and your wanting
him back, is making you come off in all kinds of ways that men
just don't respond well to. NO AMOUNT of talking, experience or reasoning with him can get him to feel the way you want him
to feel
Don’t try stay in touch with him and keep the connection alive.
I know it seems like the best idea to keep trying to stay in touch with him and keep the connection alive. But the truth is that you're just keeping this same old situation alive by pumping your time and attention into it. If instead, you step back and stop chasing him or trying to convince him you're the right woman, you’ll have an opportunity to do something that can honestly be ATTRACTIVE to him
Something funny happens when a man gets the space he asked for
If you do it in the right way, he's forced to deal with himself and his own feelings to figure out that all the things he is worried about, afraid of, fearful of "committing to", etc. And being by himself, he'll see that these things are really just in his own mind - and not bad things about YOU.
Move on
Get back to the things that you enjoy, the places you like to go and avoid places or things you used to do or see with that man. Spend some time with your friends and give yourself the space you deserve. The less you talk about what you are to him the better off you'll be.
And I think you'll be amazed at the results.
Dictionary For Arguing With Women
There's a new sheriff in town. She is tired of seeing men getting their hearts shot up and being clue less about women and voila! Here’s a dictionary to help you understand your woman.
Gentlemen, welcome to Mary’s version of women’s dictionary! If you have any doubts about this cause being just or necessary, remember what your breakups and temporary losses of sanity have cost you. Look at your past dates from hell.. What about the "good one" who got away? All because you couldn’t understand her. Read on.....
1. “Fine”
This is the word women use at the end of any argument when they feel they are right but can’t stand to hear you argue any longer. It means that you should shut up. (NEVER use “Fine” to describe how she looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.)
2. “Five minutes”
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so women feel that it’s an even trade.
3. “Nothing”
“Nothing” means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine.”
4. “Go Ahead” (with raised eyebrows)
This is NOT permission; it’s a dare! If you mistake it for permission, the result will be the woman will get upset over “Nothing” and you’ll have a “Five-minute” discussion that will end with the word “Fine.”
5. “Go Ahead” (normal eyebrows)
This is NOT permission, either. It means, “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care.” You will get a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.
6. “Loud Sigh”
This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement.
Very frequently misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are a complete idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing.”
7. “Soft Sigh”
Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” are one of the few things that some men actually understand. It means she is momentarily content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe in the hope that the moment will last a bit longer.
8. “Oh”
This word-followed by any statement-is trouble. Example; “Oh, let me get that”. Or, “Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night.” If she says “Oh” before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit.
She will tell you that she is “Fine” when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least two days.
9. “That’s Okay”
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man.
“That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding what the penalty will be for whatever you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and in conjunction with a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead.” Once she has had time to plan it out, you are in for some mighty big trouble.
10. “Please Do”
This is not a statement, it is an offer. The woman is giving you the chance to come up with an excuse for what you have done. In other words, a chance to get yourself into even more trouble. If you handle this correctly, you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay.”
11. “Thanks”
The woman is thanking you. Don’t faint and don’t look for hidden meaning. Just say, “You’re welcome.”
12. “Thanks A Lot”
Dramatically different from “Thanks.” A woman will say “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It is usually followed by the “Loud Sigh.” This signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh,” as she will only tell you “Nothing.”
13. “I have had it with you”
My advice to you, run.....run as first as your legs can carry you for that means exactly that. At this moment,It would be nice to give you a magic potion and tell you everything will be OK..but I’d be lying
Gentlemen, welcome to Mary’s version of women’s dictionary! If you have any doubts about this cause being just or necessary, remember what your breakups and temporary losses of sanity have cost you. Look at your past dates from hell.. What about the "good one" who got away? All because you couldn’t understand her. Read on.....
1. “Fine”
This is the word women use at the end of any argument when they feel they are right but can’t stand to hear you argue any longer. It means that you should shut up. (NEVER use “Fine” to describe how she looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.)
2. “Five minutes”
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so women feel that it’s an even trade.
3. “Nothing”
“Nothing” means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine.”
4. “Go Ahead” (with raised eyebrows)
This is NOT permission; it’s a dare! If you mistake it for permission, the result will be the woman will get upset over “Nothing” and you’ll have a “Five-minute” discussion that will end with the word “Fine.”
5. “Go Ahead” (normal eyebrows)
This is NOT permission, either. It means, “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care.” You will get a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.
6. “Loud Sigh”
This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement.
Very frequently misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are a complete idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing.”
7. “Soft Sigh”
Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” are one of the few things that some men actually understand. It means she is momentarily content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe in the hope that the moment will last a bit longer.
8. “Oh”
This word-followed by any statement-is trouble. Example; “Oh, let me get that”. Or, “Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night.” If she says “Oh” before a statement, run, do not walk, to the nearest exit.
She will tell you that she is “Fine” when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least two days.
9. “That’s Okay”
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man.
“That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding what the penalty will be for whatever you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and in conjunction with a raised eyebrow “Go Ahead.” Once she has had time to plan it out, you are in for some mighty big trouble.
10. “Please Do”
This is not a statement, it is an offer. The woman is giving you the chance to come up with an excuse for what you have done. In other words, a chance to get yourself into even more trouble. If you handle this correctly, you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay.”
11. “Thanks”
The woman is thanking you. Don’t faint and don’t look for hidden meaning. Just say, “You’re welcome.”
12. “Thanks A Lot”
Dramatically different from “Thanks.” A woman will say “Thanks A Lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It is usually followed by the “Loud Sigh.” This signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh,” as she will only tell you “Nothing.”
13. “I have had it with you”
My advice to you, run.....run as first as your legs can carry you for that means exactly that. At this moment,It would be nice to give you a magic potion and tell you everything will be OK..but I’d be lying
Finally, an answer to what women want
“The great question which I have not been able to answer, despite my thirty years in research into the feminine soul, is, "What does a woman want?" - Freud. Sigmund Freud, the father of the analyst's couch was no stranger in his befuddlement. Generations of men without his credentials have asked the same question, "What does a woman want?" It's ironic that we have all these love doctors charging for advice, when they openly admit they don't understand women. You might as well buy lottery tickets!
Well, I am a woman and I will tell you what women want.
If affection works with her cat, it will work with her
In the love game, affection is the female's number one requirement, after respect. If you are affectionate, she will rob banks for you. Hold on to your seat; she will even give up shopping and stay thin! Yes, it's true! Plus, if she ever finds another man attractive, his image will perish immediately from her consciousness! It's great adultery insurance! When you first see each other, and when you leave each other, just hold her in your arms for ten seconds, with no talking or kissing. Just look into her eyes, and try to give the impression that you like it too! It takes practice, but the reward is incomprehensible. It has even been known to cure nagging and obesity! The key is that affection, respect, and romance are your maintenance program. They are going to keep her in love with you. Affection is not a prelude to sex. Remember, she loves affection as much her Pussycat loves to purr!
A man is as old as he feels, and a woman is as old as she looks
The discussion of age is one of a woman’s big no-nos. Guys could care less about how many birthdays they have celebrated, but she is real touchy in this area. To her, she is always too young or too old. And if she is thirty and single, without at least one divorce under her belt, she feels incomplete, in spite of what her Feminists sisters tell her (“You are better off with a moustache” - they should know!). To the unmarried female of 30, it’s as if destiny has cheated her. Plus, she has to really hurry if she wants kids. Next comes crows-feet, and I am not talking about Indians! They are those teeny long cracks around her eyes that she sees as deep and as the mighty Mississippi! Fat (which she could control) is another sign of age that she knows is diminishing her looks, yet she would rather graze. Men can claim character and wisdom with age (look at Morgan Freeman), but all she gets is “May I help you, Ma’am?” by the college hunks working at the ice cream or cake section of the market. The key is, replace the word “young” for “old,” in your vocabulary and never ask her for her age (Why turn off the buyer?). Remember to buy for her birthday a pretty (low-cal) cake, card, and (inexpensive) gift - just be sure and forget the candles!
Never try to keep someone who does not want to keep you
It's simply amazing what a man will put up with, or go through, to gain a woman's acceptance. In their search for the answer, men are constantly asking themselves, "Can I do this, or can I do that without turning her off? Can I say this, or can I say that, so she will accept me?" Even Attila the Hun, the first left-wing extremist, wanted to be accepted by a woman! If a man knew what a woman wanted, he would be overjoyed to give "it" to her. What man wouldn’t? Love her with everything except words,
Adoring love has no effect on a woman’s personality compared to a man’s. When her Interest Level shoots the roof, she just delights in it. However, the male goes through a metamorphosis that would even boggle the mind of the first love doctor, Sigmund Freud. To you Psych majors, this means Tom just isn’t the same ol’ guy. It’s as if magic or sorcery transformed him (by a witch?). This phenomenon happens to men whose Interest Level goes into the danger zone - above 90%. It’s as if Tom is walking around in a daze. When he sees Mary, he loses all self-control, and acts like putty in her hands. What is worse, this goes on even when she’s not trying to dominate him! He just gazes at her, and waits for his orders as if he was a new recruit in the Army. Plus poor Tom acts like Samson after the infamous haircut - no oomph.
Normal women respond to Challenge
Most guys don’t realize that normal women respond to Challenge. Here, on one hand, is a guy who should be playing his cards next to his chest (Challenge), but wears his heart on his sleeve (poor baby). The key is, there is no key. There are those who will read this material and will not be fazed by it. Remember, some guys don’t want to be fixed.
When you call (text) her so many times, you give up self-control
You don’t know when or if she got the message. You don’t know when, or if she is going to call back. And you saw none of her body language as she spoke, assuming she returned the call. Waiting isn’t fun. Plus, it leads to misunderstandings. How are you going to judge her Interest Level, when communication is such a gray area? You can’t. Everything she does and says has to be black or white in your mind, no loose ands, and absolutely nothing taken for granted. So let’s run a tight ship and do the opposite. No ‘one thousand messages’ for the first sixty days.
If you are supposed to go someplace with her, or you are going to meet somewhere, don’t buy into the old “just leave a message with time and/or place” trick. Talk to her, preferably face to face, and get the facts perfectly clear. You have to match her words and actions, and with a third party like an answering machine, she could keep you in the dark.
Have you ever heard, “I thought you meant the other Mall”? “Something must be wrong with my machine.” “It was so late I didn’t want to wake you,” or, “I didn’t call because I had to be at work real early.” “I thought you meant next Wednesday.” “What message?” And there are a thousand more. The way to beat a bad habit is not to start it.
Expect respect rather than beg for approval
Women are attracted to strong men (the character trait, not arm size), and everybody makes mistakes in relationships. Between buddies, apologizing is no big deal. But in male-female romantic relationships, it's just isn't the same. Two lovers who have had a spat, will not phone each other, playing the old "I can hold out longer than you can" game. One of the two parties might pout, until the other half gives in. Hopefully, she is the pouter because it doesn't look right when a man does it.
If you are guilty, apologize as soon as possible
If men were perfect, they wouldn’t get into these positions, but it happens. Women read social situations much better and quicker than men do (always have and always will). So odds are, she really knows who the guilty party is. The key is, if you are guilty, fess up as soon as possible. Say it once, no grovelling, and she will not interpret this as weakness. If you are not guilty, hold your ground - she might be testing you (Yes, we do that!). Start asking for those new mobile numbers from other women, just for backup. Remember, you are not looking for a weak woman: you are looking for adaptability and integrity - the needle in the haystack.
First, you have to get her catch you, and then you have to get her to keep you
Part of the second half is always paying attention. To you Psych majors, it means staying aware. A married man should pay attention to what he sees, hears, and (negatively and positively) feels, because his wife may not express herself directly or explicitly when her interest level begins to drop. Trust is one-third of integrity and a prerequisite for the man to be comfortable, and stay in love with his wife over the long haul. Some women are trustworthy and some women are sneaks. Take your pick. The key is, not to stop giving her the benefit of the doubt, but to always remain objective. Pay attention to her actions, especially if she is giving you flags (bad vibes, half-truths, or apparent inconsistencies). Remember, the Reality Factor says that those who refuse to pay attention (look) are destined for trouble.
The more you know about women, the more confident you are with women
Clinically sane women like secure men, so fake it. You talk to a woman at the wedding reception for ten minutes and then ask for the home phone number, almost abruptly. On your first date, as you shut off the car engine, she goes for the door. If she says “no,” you got a Feminist or a structured woman or one with low Interest Level on your hands. If she says, “This doesn’t happen very often,” she just told you in ‘Womanese’ she likes what you did (her other dates aren’t gentlemen), and it verified The “System” as it upped her Interest Level. Take her hand, help her out of the car, and offer your arm. If she fights this, she has low Interest Level or she is structured. When you walk into the restaurant, you hold the door open so she can go in first. You pick the table and pull out her chair. Classy women like this. Feminists hate it - “I can pull out my own chair, thank you very much!” Since she knows you’re a take charge guy, she doesn’t have to worry about what is going to take place because it’s all in your hands. Her comfort level is rising and she knows you have class. Nothing beats a self-assured man.
Look at all the mileage you got, mostly without saying a word, or spending a dime. You not only tested her Interest Level and her attitude, by also her reactions. Tons of info. for you. The key is, being bold and gallant. She is looking for the knight on the big white charger that she reads about in her stupid romance novels. Remember, after she decides to keep you, she will be throwing those books in the fireplace, where they belong, while trying to keep you warm!
Now practice this short list of ten things as I compile for you the other list often things that what women want
Well, I am a woman and I will tell you what women want.
If affection works with her cat, it will work with her
In the love game, affection is the female's number one requirement, after respect. If you are affectionate, she will rob banks for you. Hold on to your seat; she will even give up shopping and stay thin! Yes, it's true! Plus, if she ever finds another man attractive, his image will perish immediately from her consciousness! It's great adultery insurance! When you first see each other, and when you leave each other, just hold her in your arms for ten seconds, with no talking or kissing. Just look into her eyes, and try to give the impression that you like it too! It takes practice, but the reward is incomprehensible. It has even been known to cure nagging and obesity! The key is that affection, respect, and romance are your maintenance program. They are going to keep her in love with you. Affection is not a prelude to sex. Remember, she loves affection as much her Pussycat loves to purr!
A man is as old as he feels, and a woman is as old as she looks
The discussion of age is one of a woman’s big no-nos. Guys could care less about how many birthdays they have celebrated, but she is real touchy in this area. To her, she is always too young or too old. And if she is thirty and single, without at least one divorce under her belt, she feels incomplete, in spite of what her Feminists sisters tell her (“You are better off with a moustache” - they should know!). To the unmarried female of 30, it’s as if destiny has cheated her. Plus, she has to really hurry if she wants kids. Next comes crows-feet, and I am not talking about Indians! They are those teeny long cracks around her eyes that she sees as deep and as the mighty Mississippi! Fat (which she could control) is another sign of age that she knows is diminishing her looks, yet she would rather graze. Men can claim character and wisdom with age (look at Morgan Freeman), but all she gets is “May I help you, Ma’am?” by the college hunks working at the ice cream or cake section of the market. The key is, replace the word “young” for “old,” in your vocabulary and never ask her for her age (Why turn off the buyer?). Remember to buy for her birthday a pretty (low-cal) cake, card, and (inexpensive) gift - just be sure and forget the candles!
Never try to keep someone who does not want to keep you
It's simply amazing what a man will put up with, or go through, to gain a woman's acceptance. In their search for the answer, men are constantly asking themselves, "Can I do this, or can I do that without turning her off? Can I say this, or can I say that, so she will accept me?" Even Attila the Hun, the first left-wing extremist, wanted to be accepted by a woman! If a man knew what a woman wanted, he would be overjoyed to give "it" to her. What man wouldn’t? Love her with everything except words,
Adoring love has no effect on a woman’s personality compared to a man’s. When her Interest Level shoots the roof, she just delights in it. However, the male goes through a metamorphosis that would even boggle the mind of the first love doctor, Sigmund Freud. To you Psych majors, this means Tom just isn’t the same ol’ guy. It’s as if magic or sorcery transformed him (by a witch?). This phenomenon happens to men whose Interest Level goes into the danger zone - above 90%. It’s as if Tom is walking around in a daze. When he sees Mary, he loses all self-control, and acts like putty in her hands. What is worse, this goes on even when she’s not trying to dominate him! He just gazes at her, and waits for his orders as if he was a new recruit in the Army. Plus poor Tom acts like Samson after the infamous haircut - no oomph.
Normal women respond to Challenge
Most guys don’t realize that normal women respond to Challenge. Here, on one hand, is a guy who should be playing his cards next to his chest (Challenge), but wears his heart on his sleeve (poor baby). The key is, there is no key. There are those who will read this material and will not be fazed by it. Remember, some guys don’t want to be fixed.
When you call (text) her so many times, you give up self-control
You don’t know when or if she got the message. You don’t know when, or if she is going to call back. And you saw none of her body language as she spoke, assuming she returned the call. Waiting isn’t fun. Plus, it leads to misunderstandings. How are you going to judge her Interest Level, when communication is such a gray area? You can’t. Everything she does and says has to be black or white in your mind, no loose ands, and absolutely nothing taken for granted. So let’s run a tight ship and do the opposite. No ‘one thousand messages’ for the first sixty days.
If you are supposed to go someplace with her, or you are going to meet somewhere, don’t buy into the old “just leave a message with time and/or place” trick. Talk to her, preferably face to face, and get the facts perfectly clear. You have to match her words and actions, and with a third party like an answering machine, she could keep you in the dark.
Have you ever heard, “I thought you meant the other Mall”? “Something must be wrong with my machine.” “It was so late I didn’t want to wake you,” or, “I didn’t call because I had to be at work real early.” “I thought you meant next Wednesday.” “What message?” And there are a thousand more. The way to beat a bad habit is not to start it.
Expect respect rather than beg for approval
Women are attracted to strong men (the character trait, not arm size), and everybody makes mistakes in relationships. Between buddies, apologizing is no big deal. But in male-female romantic relationships, it's just isn't the same. Two lovers who have had a spat, will not phone each other, playing the old "I can hold out longer than you can" game. One of the two parties might pout, until the other half gives in. Hopefully, she is the pouter because it doesn't look right when a man does it.
If you are guilty, apologize as soon as possible
If men were perfect, they wouldn’t get into these positions, but it happens. Women read social situations much better and quicker than men do (always have and always will). So odds are, she really knows who the guilty party is. The key is, if you are guilty, fess up as soon as possible. Say it once, no grovelling, and she will not interpret this as weakness. If you are not guilty, hold your ground - she might be testing you (Yes, we do that!). Start asking for those new mobile numbers from other women, just for backup. Remember, you are not looking for a weak woman: you are looking for adaptability and integrity - the needle in the haystack.
First, you have to get her catch you, and then you have to get her to keep you
Part of the second half is always paying attention. To you Psych majors, it means staying aware. A married man should pay attention to what he sees, hears, and (negatively and positively) feels, because his wife may not express herself directly or explicitly when her interest level begins to drop. Trust is one-third of integrity and a prerequisite for the man to be comfortable, and stay in love with his wife over the long haul. Some women are trustworthy and some women are sneaks. Take your pick. The key is, not to stop giving her the benefit of the doubt, but to always remain objective. Pay attention to her actions, especially if she is giving you flags (bad vibes, half-truths, or apparent inconsistencies). Remember, the Reality Factor says that those who refuse to pay attention (look) are destined for trouble.
The more you know about women, the more confident you are with women
Clinically sane women like secure men, so fake it. You talk to a woman at the wedding reception for ten minutes and then ask for the home phone number, almost abruptly. On your first date, as you shut off the car engine, she goes for the door. If she says “no,” you got a Feminist or a structured woman or one with low Interest Level on your hands. If she says, “This doesn’t happen very often,” she just told you in ‘Womanese’ she likes what you did (her other dates aren’t gentlemen), and it verified The “System” as it upped her Interest Level. Take her hand, help her out of the car, and offer your arm. If she fights this, she has low Interest Level or she is structured. When you walk into the restaurant, you hold the door open so she can go in first. You pick the table and pull out her chair. Classy women like this. Feminists hate it - “I can pull out my own chair, thank you very much!” Since she knows you’re a take charge guy, she doesn’t have to worry about what is going to take place because it’s all in your hands. Her comfort level is rising and she knows you have class. Nothing beats a self-assured man.
Look at all the mileage you got, mostly without saying a word, or spending a dime. You not only tested her Interest Level and her attitude, by also her reactions. Tons of info. for you. The key is, being bold and gallant. She is looking for the knight on the big white charger that she reads about in her stupid romance novels. Remember, after she decides to keep you, she will be throwing those books in the fireplace, where they belong, while trying to keep you warm!
Now practice this short list of ten things as I compile for you the other list often things that what women want
Monday, April 11, 2011
How to be wealthy and financially free
In front of you stretches a road leading into your future. On that road are heights you wish to reach… great dreams you wish to fulfil. To truly fulfil these desires, you must be triumphant with money. Money makes it possible for one to enjoy all the great things that one desires in this life. Apply the principles made clear in the article that follows. Let it be your guide from a life of lack to one that is fulfilling.. ...
The principles
The principles of wealth are simple, universal and never changing. May they become to you, as they have been to many others who have walked this road before you, the door to prosperity. Just remember that it doesn’t matter where you are now, after all, the habit of managing money is more important than the amount.
The goal of this article is to get you to a point where you attain financial freedom. This is a point where your passive income exceeds your expenses. It means that you don’t have to work for money, money works for you. Your best bet for financial freedom is by creating a stream of incomes both from business and investments. All you need is what you have now and the following rules to get you to the wealth you desire.
Rule no. 1
The first rule is keeping your money in different accounts. The different accounts are laid down in the rules that follow. Financially speaking, poor and middle class people believe the primary reason to work is to earn money to pay for their current lifestyle. Rich people believe the primary reason to work is to earn money to invest and to create passive income structures so they can win the money game and become financially free. For starters, you will need six accounts. You can put your pay cheque in one clearing account and make transfers to the respective accounts. The six accounts are;
• Investment account
• Essentials account
• Self development account
• Fun account
• Give account
• Savings account
Rule no. 2
For every one hundred you earn put aside ten to be used for investment. Make a deposit on this account first. This will be the goose that lays you the golden eggs. You never eat the goose that lays the golden eggs; you only eat the golden eggs. I repeat, do not spend this money, you only invest it. The 10% should go to the Investment account and should only be used wisely in profitable investments. You should never spend this amount. It is also important you open a different account for this saving to make sure you don’t spend it. The profitable investment should be one that you have done your research on. Be it the stock market, real estate, a shop ... whichever the investment. Make sure you have secured your investment from unnecessary risks. This is where mentors come in. Identify a financial advisor in the area you wish to invest in .Invest some time every day to learn about investments and managing money. Make sure you are familiar in the area you wish to invest in. Before you invest make sure you clearly understand the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats of your investment. Don’t be in a hurry to get rich.
Rule no. 3
Assign 50% or less to go to your essentials (basic needs). This is where rent, food, transport etc should come in. If you spend more than 50% on your essentials account, you are living beyond your means. Simplify. Move to a cheaper house, live near where you work. If that is not an option for you then find more ways to make money. Do whatever you can to make sure your essentials account does not exceed 50%. If you can live on less than 50%, that is even better because it means that you will have more money to invest. The balance on this account should not be carried forward to the next month but rather put it on the investment account. This may seem difficult at first but think of all the wealth you are going to accumulate. Wealthy people don’t just want to be rich; they are committed to being rich. After all, what you focus on grows.
Rule No. 4
Allocate 10% to go to the self development account. You can use this account to go back to school, buy books to help you learn about investment, wealth creation or use it to attend seminars that improve you as a person. You don’t have to spend the whole amount every month. You can accumulate it to spend it on school fees. Commit at least half an hour every day to learning about investment opportunities in your area. The internet is a great place to start. Work on your mind, get into the habit of reading, you could go to the library, download books from the internet, read motivational books, fictions, non-fictions get into the habit of reading.
Rule No. 5
Assign 10% to go to your fun account. You have worked very hard the whole month you deserve to enjoy the money you have struggled to earn. You can accumulate it and take a vacation quarterly or spend it monthly on things that you love. Do not spend this money on essentials, it’s meant for fun activities. For a long time you have cared about your parents, your spouse, your children your colleagues, it’s time to take care of you, it’s time to make yourself smile and this account will help you do that
Rule No. 6
Assign 10% to your give account. If you are a Christian, you can give it as tithe. If you wish to give more, remember the only account you can touch is your essentials account and not any of the other four. Don’t take this account lightly. The quality of your life ultimately comes down to the quality of your contribution to others. To cultivate the sacredness of each day, live to give. By elevating the lives of others, your life reaches its highest magnitude. Practice daily acts of kindness. Give to those who ask. Cultivate richer relationships. Stop seeing yourself purely as an individual and start seeing yourself as part of the collective. Take time to meditate every morning on the good you will do for others during your day and this account will enable you to do just that.
Rule No. 7
Assign 10% to your saving account. You can use this account to purchase assets that your house needs in future, it can be used for emergency. You can accumulate it for many years so that you can use it to buy a home, land. This account is basically for long time spending.
Rule No. 8
Take a step NOW. How many times have you said to yourself...."How am I going to do this?"
This is a persistent question to all of us. Where have you gotten stuck in your thinking
and by buying into your being stuck, you have let opportunity pass you by because of some fear about not knowing enough, being enough, didn't know where to begin, weren't quite ready, and on and on. The only way to you can have the life you have always desired is taking a step now .If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get any work done. Take the first step towards it whether you know the final answers or not.
Action will create momentum and momentum will create an ability to forge through any adversity you perceive is in your way. I have given you the means; now find your way to financial freedom and wealth.
The principles
The principles of wealth are simple, universal and never changing. May they become to you, as they have been to many others who have walked this road before you, the door to prosperity. Just remember that it doesn’t matter where you are now, after all, the habit of managing money is more important than the amount.
The goal of this article is to get you to a point where you attain financial freedom. This is a point where your passive income exceeds your expenses. It means that you don’t have to work for money, money works for you. Your best bet for financial freedom is by creating a stream of incomes both from business and investments. All you need is what you have now and the following rules to get you to the wealth you desire.
Rule no. 1
The first rule is keeping your money in different accounts. The different accounts are laid down in the rules that follow. Financially speaking, poor and middle class people believe the primary reason to work is to earn money to pay for their current lifestyle. Rich people believe the primary reason to work is to earn money to invest and to create passive income structures so they can win the money game and become financially free. For starters, you will need six accounts. You can put your pay cheque in one clearing account and make transfers to the respective accounts. The six accounts are;
• Investment account
• Essentials account
• Self development account
• Fun account
• Give account
• Savings account
Rule no. 2
For every one hundred you earn put aside ten to be used for investment. Make a deposit on this account first. This will be the goose that lays you the golden eggs. You never eat the goose that lays the golden eggs; you only eat the golden eggs. I repeat, do not spend this money, you only invest it. The 10% should go to the Investment account and should only be used wisely in profitable investments. You should never spend this amount. It is also important you open a different account for this saving to make sure you don’t spend it. The profitable investment should be one that you have done your research on. Be it the stock market, real estate, a shop ... whichever the investment. Make sure you have secured your investment from unnecessary risks. This is where mentors come in. Identify a financial advisor in the area you wish to invest in .Invest some time every day to learn about investments and managing money. Make sure you are familiar in the area you wish to invest in. Before you invest make sure you clearly understand the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats of your investment. Don’t be in a hurry to get rich.
Rule no. 3
Assign 50% or less to go to your essentials (basic needs). This is where rent, food, transport etc should come in. If you spend more than 50% on your essentials account, you are living beyond your means. Simplify. Move to a cheaper house, live near where you work. If that is not an option for you then find more ways to make money. Do whatever you can to make sure your essentials account does not exceed 50%. If you can live on less than 50%, that is even better because it means that you will have more money to invest. The balance on this account should not be carried forward to the next month but rather put it on the investment account. This may seem difficult at first but think of all the wealth you are going to accumulate. Wealthy people don’t just want to be rich; they are committed to being rich. After all, what you focus on grows.
Rule No. 4
Allocate 10% to go to the self development account. You can use this account to go back to school, buy books to help you learn about investment, wealth creation or use it to attend seminars that improve you as a person. You don’t have to spend the whole amount every month. You can accumulate it to spend it on school fees. Commit at least half an hour every day to learning about investment opportunities in your area. The internet is a great place to start. Work on your mind, get into the habit of reading, you could go to the library, download books from the internet, read motivational books, fictions, non-fictions get into the habit of reading.
Rule No. 5
Assign 10% to go to your fun account. You have worked very hard the whole month you deserve to enjoy the money you have struggled to earn. You can accumulate it and take a vacation quarterly or spend it monthly on things that you love. Do not spend this money on essentials, it’s meant for fun activities. For a long time you have cared about your parents, your spouse, your children your colleagues, it’s time to take care of you, it’s time to make yourself smile and this account will help you do that
Rule No. 6
Assign 10% to your give account. If you are a Christian, you can give it as tithe. If you wish to give more, remember the only account you can touch is your essentials account and not any of the other four. Don’t take this account lightly. The quality of your life ultimately comes down to the quality of your contribution to others. To cultivate the sacredness of each day, live to give. By elevating the lives of others, your life reaches its highest magnitude. Practice daily acts of kindness. Give to those who ask. Cultivate richer relationships. Stop seeing yourself purely as an individual and start seeing yourself as part of the collective. Take time to meditate every morning on the good you will do for others during your day and this account will enable you to do just that.
Rule No. 7
Assign 10% to your saving account. You can use this account to purchase assets that your house needs in future, it can be used for emergency. You can accumulate it for many years so that you can use it to buy a home, land. This account is basically for long time spending.
Rule No. 8
Take a step NOW. How many times have you said to yourself...."How am I going to do this?"
This is a persistent question to all of us. Where have you gotten stuck in your thinking
and by buying into your being stuck, you have let opportunity pass you by because of some fear about not knowing enough, being enough, didn't know where to begin, weren't quite ready, and on and on. The only way to you can have the life you have always desired is taking a step now .If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get any work done. Take the first step towards it whether you know the final answers or not.
Action will create momentum and momentum will create an ability to forge through any adversity you perceive is in your way. I have given you the means; now find your way to financial freedom and wealth.
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